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The Man They Wanted Me To Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making

Event date: 
Wednesday, June 5, 2019 - 7:30pm to 9:00pm

Charis and Men Stopping Violence welcome Jared Yates Sexton, the author of The People Are Going to Rise Upon Your Shore, to talk about The Man They Wanted Me to Be, in which he turns his keen eye to our current crisis of masculinity using his upbringing in rural Indiana to examine the personal and societal dangers of the white supremacist patriarchy.

Based on his provocative and popular New York Times op-ed, The Man They Wanted Me to Be is both memoir and cultural analysis. Jared Yates Sexton alternates between an examination of his working class upbringing and historical, psychological, and sociological sources that examine the genesis of toxic masculinity and its consequences for society.

As progressivism changes American society, and globalism shifts labor away from traditional manufacturing, the roles that have been prescribed to men since the Industrial Revolution have been rendered as obsolete. Donald Trump's campaign successfully leveraged male resentment and entitlement, and now, with Trump as president and the rise of the #MeToo movement, it's clear that our current definitions of masculinity are outdated and even dangerous.

Deeply personal and thoroughly researched, The Man They Wanted Me to Be examines how we teach boys what's expected of men in America, and the long-term effects of that socialization--which include depression, shorter lives, misogyny, and suicide. Sexton turns his keen eye to the establishment of the racist patriarchal structure which has favored white men, and investigates the personal and societal dangers of such outdated definitions of manhood.

This is a Charis Circle Founding the Future of Feminism Event. The suggested donation is $5. 

Event address: 
184 S. Candler St.
Decatur, GA 30030
The Man They Wanted Me to Be: Toxic Masculinity and a Crisis of Our Own Making Cover Image
$23.40
ISBN: 9781640091818
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Published: Counterpoint LLC - May 7th, 2019

"By carefully and soberly examining his own story, Sexton deconstructs American life and gives many examples of how pervasive toxic masculinity is in our culture." --Henry Rollins, Los Angeles Times


The People Are Going to Rise Like the Waters Upon Your Shore: A Story of American Rage Cover Image
$15.26
ISBN: 9781640091047
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Published: Counterpoint LLC - August 7th, 2018

"Sexton grapples with the Trump campaign from the perspective of the crowds reveling in the candidate's presence and message. It is a useful vantage point given the increasingly blatant bigotry in the months since the election." --The Washington Post