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Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections--Emily Nagoski in conversation with Dr. Tanya M. Bass

Event date: 
Friday, February 2, 2024 - 7:00pm to 8:00pm

All attendees must register for the event.

Charis welcomes Emily Nagoski in conversation with Dr. Tanya M. Bass for a discussion of Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. In Person at Agnes Scott College, Presser Hall.

About the Book

From the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.

In Come as You AreEmily Nagoski, PhD, provided science-backed lessons that revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.

Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it – or advice that may work for some but backfires for many, leaving us feeling broken. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths we’ve been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they will inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.

So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image, to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You'll learn:

  • That “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades.

  • Vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found.

  • How to understand your own and your partners' "emotional floorplan," so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind.

Written with scientific rigor and the humor and compassion for which she is known, Nagoski aims to correct much of the outdated or incorrect advice we’ve been given, and shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our ownlives, and what to do when struggles arise.

About the Author

Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister, Amelia, of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an MS in counseling and a PhD in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.

Dr. Tanya M. Bass is an award-winning sexuality educator, the Founder of the North Carolina Sexual Health Conference, and President/CEO of Optics to Action, an organization specializing in professional development for human service professionals. She also serves as the lead instructor for Human Sexuality at her alma mater and Historically Black College/University (HBCU), North Carolina Central University, in the Department of Public Health Education. Her commitment to educating the next generation of sexuality and public health educators is evident in her work as an adjunct instructor for several years. Dr. Bass completed her doctoral studies at Widener University and holds certifications as a Certified Sexuality Educator (CSE) with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), as well as a Certified Health Education Specialist (CHES®) through the National Commission for Health Education Credentialing. Tanya is an active member of professional organizations such as AASECT, the NC Society for Public Health Educators, the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, and the Association of Black Sexologists and Clinicians. She serves as Vice President of Membership of AASECT and is a member of the editorial board for the American Journal of Sexuality Education.

About the Event
Emily Nagoski will pre-sign all books. There will not be a personalized signing line. All attendees must register for the event by selecting a ticket. There will be a limited number of free tickets. You may choose a free ticket without a book or a single signed book ticket or a ticket for 2 people that includes one signed book.

If you choose the book with ticket option, you will bring your ticket (digitally or on paper) with you to pick up your copy of the book at the event. All books not picked up at the event on 2/2 will be available for pickup at Charis Books and More (184 S. Candler St, Decatur) for an additional 2 weeks. Doors open at 6 pm. The event begins promptly at 7 pm.

Masks: Face masks are encouraged but not required.
Social Distancing: Attendance will be capped below capacity to ensure social distancing.
The Agnes Scott College Presser Hall is fully wheelchair accessible, with accessible parking. Please contact us at or 404-524-0304 if you have other seating or accessibility needs or would like to request ASL interpretation.

Event Code of Conduct: By attending our event you agree to our Code of Conduct: Our event seeks to provide a harassment-free experience for everyone, regardless of gender, gender identity, and expression, age, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, religion (or lack thereof), class, or technology choices. We do not tolerate harassment in any form. Anyone violating these rules will be expelled from this event and all future events at the discretion of the organizers. Please report all harassment to immediately.

Event address: 
Agnes Scott College Presser Hall
141 E College Avenue
Decatur, GA 30030
Event Summary: 
Charis welcomes Emily Nagoski in conversation with Dr. Tanya M. Bass for a discussion of Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. In Person at Agnes Scott College, Presser Hall.